My daughter is a competitive gymnast. For years we've traveled
from meet to meet watching her flip, leap, and run with a determination one
usually sees in a more mature athlete. It's an adrenaline rush for the whole
family but for very different reasons. Our kiddo exudes pure concentration as
she's competing, followed by exhaling sheer joy at the end of each event. For
us parents, however, each time we see her jump from one parallel bar to the
other or run and dismount off the beam, our hearts skip a little as we pray for
both success and for safe landings.
Recently an eye exam revealed my daughter needed glasses, so she
dutifully picked some smart (but cool blue!) shades which she wore all the time
except during gym practice and meets. We started to see the impact of this
small vision change on her confidence; wobbling more on the balance beam and
hesitating as she ran toward the vault. Our hyper-focused kid was losing a
little focus.
When You're Losing Focus
We can all relate to those times in our lives where our focus has
shifted, causing a little imbalance. A big project at work is suddenly clouded
by outside distractions.....a diet goes awry because of that big party you went
to (then the after-party, then the early morning breakfast tacos).....a home
improvement starts strong but somehow becomes the never-ending labor, then you still see it looming after a year's time. For me,
my beloved blog was put on the back-burner to catch up with work because I lost
my own balance for a bit. "Focus" is something we tend to create with
passion in order to accomplish a goal, yet for us to sustain this focus is the bigger
challenge. When you look at successful individuals that have accomplished
something great, do you ever wonder how they sustain focus? Jack Canfield, creator of the explosive best-selling series Chicken Soup for the Soul, explains:
"Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no
matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes
rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take
to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other
distractions that life presents to them."
Think about this: when you dive head-first into a goal and you
start to lose that initial focus, is it because you're distracted by
less-prioritized events around you, or could it be you're remembering past
failures that start to shake your confidence? Ask yourself: am I focused on the
end-goal or dwelling on my beam-wobbling? Or in my case, am I over-committing
to so many other things that my priorities....MY focuses....get lost in the
process?
The Power of the Picture
"Focus" goes beyond the eye-on-the-ball philosophy. It's
not just about seeing your goal, but seeing it clearly. Visual focus and mental
focus must be symbiotic. One simple, yet powerful, way to maintain focus is to
create a visual cue to support your visual focus. This may look like drawing a
picture or sketching out your project or goal, or simply writing out a few
significant words that you can read on the refrigerator door or post-it note
each day. It can also be helpful to draw the end-goal in "parts" or pieces and color off each one that you complete. Think of a pizza divided into 6 pieces, or a simple square with four parts to complete your project. When we think of bigger challenges in global terms we tend to lose focus, but when we divide a goal into a few parts we see the bigger picture (literally!) in a more concrete state.
For me, I found making a "word
cloud" around my
goal helped re-energize me (and it was fun, too!) If you don't feel like you're
the creative type, simply hop on to Google Images and type in what your
completed goals may look like, print them out, and post them where you can be
reminded of them. Use highly-viewed areas such as refrigerator doors, bathroom mirrors, a small frame on your desk that you see each day, or your visor in your car (can you imagine opening your visor mirror every day and seeing the word or picture of your end-goal there? Talk about focusing!) Be looking for my upcoming blog about "vision
boards" and how these highly-visual boards can help you with short-term and long-term
focus on your dreams. But for now, simply the power of a picture can help you
re-gain your focus. Find that picture, find that focus, and you'll find your
goal being achievable.
For our daughter, she found focus with the magic of contact
lenses. For me, creating my word cloud and hopping back onto my blog gave me a new lens to focus with. What about you? Ready to find your lens?